Expectation: Good For Your Dreams? Or Bad For Your Soul?


I recently read a post by Andrew Cohen (Evolutionary Enlightenment.com) about expectation. If I understood him correctly, he said expectation needs to be dropped at all levels—conscious and unconscious—gross and subtle. To me, a traditional spiritual approach to expectation.

On the other side of the coin, John Assaraf of The Secret fame (book and movie) purports that expectation, through continued imagination of the desired goal, is the key to successful manifestation and bringing your dreams alive.

These two guidelines create confusion for anyone who wants both wealth on the material plane and freedom on the spiritual plane. You can’t follow both guidelines at the same time because they require opposite actions and relationships to expectation.

It would seem the only way to resolve the dilemma is to choose either one approach or the other. But this leaves you feeling unsatisfied and wondering what to do with the unfulfilled longing you didn’t choose.

And more importantly, if you’re not careful, you find yourself polarizing and perceiving the option you left behind as the enemy, hiding out in all kinds of places, just waiting to catch you off guard and finally grab your attention away from what you’ve determined as the right avenue to follow.

Marketplace Mystics usually want both material freedom and spiritual freedom, and aren’t too willing to give up either. But how do you come by both with these confusing directions? I’d say you really can’t—unless you know how to embrace this dilemma as a paradox. That just means allowing both seemingly antagonistic options to co-exist as one seamless, organic whole.

When you can embrace this kind of paradoxical dilemma, you can relax with both desires and walk down both paths at the same time. Doesn’t make sense logically, does it? And that’s because it’s a paradox. The trick is remembering that life isn’t logical, and all kinds of illogical things can and do occur. After all, isn’t that what magic is all about—the impossible becoming possible right before your eyes?

This is a mighty good reason to learn how to embrace paradox. In my experience, it makes the predicaments in life much easier to embrace and navigate with ease and success. What do you think?

From my heart to yours,


About the Author

Ragini MichaelsRagini Elizabeth Michaels is an Author, Therapist, and Trainer of Communication and Modeling Skills, specializing in Behavioral Change. She has gained international recognition for her work and her reputation as a superb teacher, presenter, and the pioneering originator of Facticity® and Paradox Management.View all posts by Ragini Michaels →


  1. Steve Haase
    Steve Haase03-18-2012

    I enjoyed your post, Ragini, especially your embrace of paradox. I completely agree with you that taking the position of Freedom–where you have no expectations and want nothing–is not antithetical to creating a life of worldly success. In fact, I think that the freedom of meditation and Being is what enables one to maintain perspective while working to create wealth for oneself and others.
    Best wishes,

    • Ragini Michaels
      Ragini Michaels03-21-2012

      Hello Steve,
      Thanks for your comment. It’s so nourishing to meet others out here in the world moving us in these new directions. Much love to you and my wishes for the best. Ragini

  2. Gideon Rosenblatt
    Gideon Rosenblatt03-24-2012

    Great post, Ragini. I think rolling out this beautiful new website is a perfect example of what you’re talking about. You set forth with some vision and some expectations, and the end result probably resembles some of what you first envisioned. Where it goes next in terms of people interacting with it, you shaping it further through this blog, etc., well, that’s where the wonder of letting it flow begins, and I can’t wait.

    Really nice job with this new website. It looks great.

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