Daily Life Seeming Awfully Repetitive?
“… I was eating breakfast with a friend, for probably the hundredth time, when he commented how repetitious life could be.
That comment caused me to begin noticing many things – how the sun rises and sets each day – how the tide comes in and the tide goes out twice a day – how the seasons continue to shift, every year the same process, summer-fall-winter-spring – how the body requires that we eat and sleep each day.
I began to realize that these seemingly unimportant repetitions were demonstrating patterns of change that could teach me something important about how to live. What you will read here is what has arisen from exploring these experiences and these patterns….
The most basic pattern all of us experience is change – that constant flow of life shifting and moving always, never static or still for more than moments in time. Even modern physics indicates the most seemingly solid substance is, in fact, in constant motion at the molecular level.
More outside our awareness is another basic pattern woven inside the flow of change. That pattern is what I’ve called the Facticity of Opposites. This pattern is the repeated manifestation of life taking shape through one form of expression and the change of that expression into what appears to the mind to be the exact opposite – day into night, wet into dry, right into left, hot into cold….
Everything on the physical, mental and emotional levels of reality does seem to have a dual nature. We all experience both good and bad, beautiful and ugly, happy and sad, ups and downs. I began to wonder if this presence of Opposites (duality) truly was a facticity of life (an unalterable and undeniable reality).
And if so, was there a way to relate more harmoniously to the presence of these Opposites in motion, rather than continuing to set up what I liked against what I disliked and constantly being in battle?”
“All of us have ideas and beliefs about how to live a happy life. For almost everyone of us, these include a basic unconscious belief that we need to get rid of the dark side of our human nature. If we can just get rid of the pain, get rid of the pressure, get rid of the argument, get rid of anything that is basically unpleasant, then… we’ll find lasting happiness, peace or love.
We seem to forget that spring only arises out of the winter, and the beauty of the stars can only be seen because of the night’s darkness.”
What You’ve Been Reading
This is an excerpt from my first book, Facticity – a door to mental health & beyond. As we begin a new year, I always find the notion of patterns a helpful reminder. Many things will hopefully change in the coming year, transforming into something new. But there are also things that can only stay the same.
Like the patterns that play out in daily life, both at work and at home. Some fall into the category we call routine. Like what you do every morning when you wake up. Or what you do every night before you fall into bed. Your route to work. What you steadfastly eat at least once a week for breakfast, lunch or dinner.
These are the routines that create comfort and familiarity. On the other hand, they can create distress and boredom. But when I remember this is the nature of things, I can relax and enjoy the unfolding.
May you also relax with the nature of these repeating patterns and welcome the new year with all of it’s old familiar routines, as well as the excited expectation of change and transformation.
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