How to Actualize Service and Joy in Our Daily Lives

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This beautifully succinct insight by Rabindranath Tagore can create quite a powerful stir in the unconscious mind:

“I slept and dreamt that life was joy. I awoke and saw that life was service. I acted, and behold, service was joy.”

First, up jumps joy and its sidekick sorrow. Then the notion of service brings up selfless and its cohort selfish. Then action hits the scene activating doing and its comrade being. And of course, the notion of sleeping goes nowhere without its companion waking up.

All of these concepts and their associated experiences leap into the fray of the mind’s drive to make sense of everything that comes its way. These notions begin to dance and move about, searching for some arrangement or configuration that will bring clarity, understanding, and peace to the mind.

Umbrella with DotsWithout an awareness of this internal and unconscious process, you may be left in some confusion as to why this piece of lovely guidance may be difficult to actualize in your daily life.

First, our mystic is not referring to the joy that is the opposite of sorrow, nor to the selflessness that is the opposite of selfish, nor the doing that is the opposite of being.  He is pointing to the joy, selflessness, and action that is beyond concept, reflecting the essential qualities of our Being itself.

Second, to find these qualities of our Being, the mind has to navigate through the sea of opposites that is the fabric of its world.

When joy is perceived as better than sorrow, selflessness better than selfishness, and doing better than being, the capacity of the mind to reflect our essential self is deeply disturbed. As the mind struggles to arrange these pieces of the puzzle in some way that allows clarity and calm, it can only follow the instructions it’s been given: “Please mind, take the action that will bring me joy and selflessness and do it please by getting rid of sorrow and selfishness and passivity.”

This instruction leaves the mind no choice but to strive for an unreachable goal. In the world of opposites, the only avenue to peace and joy is to embrace all opposites and perceive the oneness of all things hidden in this worldly dance of duality.

When the mind begins to embrace opposites rather than setting up one as better than the other, the inner turbulence subsides and the sea of opposites becomes calm enough and quiet enough to reveal the previously hidden qualities of Being itself.

Most of us know being of service brings joy, and we want that joy badly. Yet, we often resent being of service and have relegated it to a check for our favorite charity, or saying a prayer for those in need of support.

I struggled for years with an unconscious notion of service as servitude, which meant losing my freedom. That was definitely not an option. Of course, that meant selflessness was beyond my reach—and I was a very selfish person—and joy was beyond my grasp—which filled me with sorrow.

Until I awoke to the interdependence of these polar pairs, I was not able to see through my unconscious notions and experience the wondrous beauty, joy, and love that reside beyond the realm of the mind.

I invite you to investigate your own notions of service and joy and how they impact your everyday life. Keep reading our mystic’s words and explore how they feel to you, how you make sense of them, where you allow this wisdom to guide your life.

May you awaken to the joy that lives in your heart as you care for others knowing it is tending to the needs of yourself appearing in yet another divine and beautifully clever form.

Much love,

Ragini

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Ragini Michaels

Ragini Elizabeth Michaels is an Author, Therapist, and Trainer of Communication and Modeling Skills, specializing in Behavioral Change. She has gained international recognition for her work and her reputation as a superb teacher, presenter, and the pioneering originator of Facticity® and Paradox Management.

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1 Comment

  1. Suzie Dardas
    Suzie Dardas06-06-2012

    This same subject just came up in some religious reading I was doing during Adoration at church recently. What I processed was: you may not want to be *dependent on others at some point in life, but helping others (actually helping others with your time, not just a check) will actually better prepare you for such a *situation if it cannot be avoided.

    I don’t think I ever saw it as tit for tat, but now understand it as better preparing your soul for understanding…for connection.

    I like how you state, He (the mystic) ” is pointing to the joy, selflessness, and action that is beyond concept, reflecting the essential qualities of our Being itself.”

    I feel it when I “serve”. I feel it in my Being.

    And with service so grows faith…in whatever….within ourselves for sure.

    Love you!

    Suzie

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